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NEW 0915 AM EDT Reflections SA Phone Meeting:
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As of 4/30/2014 – We decided from here on out we will have monthly “group conscience” meetings on the 1st Wednesday of the month at 10:00 AM ET¬†(until further notice).
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“Welcome to the Morning Reflection meeting at 9:15 AM Eastern Time. This reflection¬†meeting gives us a chance to review our recovery as seen through the program similar to¬†a 10th Step Inventory at the end of the day. Please give a brief overview for each of the¬†two sets of questions. We will have a timekeeper who will inform each caller when the¬†time is up. Also, let‚Äôs remember to keep our phones muted when we are not speaking. If¬†there is no mute feature on your phone, 4* to mute, and 4* to unmute your phone…”
(last updated 4/30/14)
Sun – N/A
Mon – Bruce
Tue – Bruce
Wed – Ann
Thu – Eric
Fri – Eric
Sat – Eric
VIG rep – Skip
Patience—The ability to wait for something without getting angry or upset is a valuable quality in a person; the ability to wait calmly; the capacity to accept delay without getting angry.
Virtue—a quality or trait that most people consider to be morally good or desirable in a person
Quick Quiz:¬† “Patience is a Virtue” suggests that getting angry when you have to wait is:
For the record when I first came into SA in 1995 one of the first things that I became resentful at was “TIME LIMITS” on shares.
Generally speaking at 90% or more of AA meetings there is no time limit on a shares.¬† How do you put a time limit on the “Language of the Heart” by setting restrictions, parameters and stipulations? Time Limits have their ADVANTAGES, don’t get me wrong.¬† However, it has been my experience it creates controversy, contention and aggravates patience!!!
I would add, once you establish a time limit, then you need a time keeper.¬† however, that responsibility is much greater than one person.¬† then the entire meeting and group takes on a DIFFERENT atmosphere.
Thus, in addition to the secretary and/or ONE time keeper, you end up having 3, 4, 5 and perhaps 20 or more time keepers.¬†¬† Then, the call EXPECTATIONS become more focused on HOW LONG you talk instead of WHAT you talk about.
Quantity vs. Quality
This is a chronic problem with Sexaholics Anonymous because we are almost forced to share our sobriety date during introductions.¬† Similarly, it’s a CONTEST of “Length of Sobriety” vs. Quality of Sobriety.¬† Shame because you don’t have enough time or that nobody is willing to listen long enough to get to the truth.¬† Sad.
What are your thoughts on time limits?
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Daily Meetings (7 days per week):¬†10
Individual Meetings (1-6 days per week): 12
Skype Meetings: 11
Women Only Meetings: 2
Total: over 101 meetings per week and growing
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The way we see SAPhoneMeeting.org…
Saphonemeeting.org was designed by SA members to serve the needs of the members who are unable to attend face to face meetings. Our contention is that the site has evolved to be a much better resource than the flyer that is currently on the SA.org website. We formed our committee to call attention to the potential of the site and to suggest a forward direction.
The following Website Advisory Committee (WAC) members agree with the aforementioned statement, research and findings. Bill R., Rob S., Steve G., Kelvin P., Len & Brooks S.
Personalities before principles. In the last few years, the designer of Saphonemeeting.org turned to SA to ask for help and support to keep the website strong. He has consistently sought out members to serve as committee to provide guidance and oversight to the site. The SA office referred the matter to the Virtual Intergroup (VIG) that had formed to represent the growing number of phone meetings. Personality differences arose when discussing the transfer of the site to SA. VIG members questioned the advisability of having a dynamic site when so many members have not found the Internet to be a safe place. Other issues concerned matters about how to handle anonymity, conference approved material, individual opinion, and financial accountability. VIG members even went so far as to question the motivations and financial propriety of the site. All these matters were worthy of discussion, but for whatever reason, strong personal feelings surfaced and the VIG and saphonemeeting.org divided into two acrimonious camps.
Our committee has formed to provide a series of recommendations to overcome a toxic situation that has developed. It is time that SA welcomed the contribution of this website and provided the support that is required. We do not want to abandon this vital web site that has become important to the recovery of many members of the community.
Promotion not attraction. The advantages of Saphonemeeting.org over the flyer, the saphonemeeting.org designer sought support at the group level. Some members heard this as promotion not attracting and their pushback proved disruptive and contentious. Strong feelings became open disputes. Addicts behaved like addicts. And the VIG initiated an effort to classify SAphonemeeting.org as an “outside” organization, asking other Intergroups to delist the site and remove links to it. They even went so far as to advocate that SA return any donations made to it from SAphonemeeting.org.
From inside to outside. Our contention is that the SAphonemeeting.org has never been an “outside” organization. It was formed in good faith to serve the members and has faithfully done so ever since. See Saphonemeeting.org to read more about traffic to the site, survey results of frequent users, and various testimonials from members of the years talking about the pivotal role the site has played in many, many recoveries. All this evidence should be sufficient to dispel the divisive notion that Saphonemeeting.org is an “outside” organization despite the strong feelings of the VIG committee.
Our leaders serve, they do not govern. Further, it’s clear to us that the VIG overstepped its authority in attempting to expel SAphonemeeting.org and to censure its designer.
7th tradition. It is clear to us that we as a fellowship have not yet evolved a reasonable method of collecting 7th tradition donations from the members who depend on digital and phone meetings. This need was addressed with a simple PayPal tool that has collected more than $1300 to cover expense since its inception. Surpluses have been forwarded to SAICO. In the graph below we show an accounting of the funds that have been received, paid the small expenses, and forwarded to SAICO.
We feel that a further step to create an infrastructure where individual meetings, whether phone or chat or forum or skype, can accept 7th tradition micropayments, maintain their own electronic treasuries, and spend their funds as determined by their group conscience. This is the formula that has fueled 12step programs forever. We need to provide the technology to perpetuate.
Such an effort may help pay for expenses to expand and improve the site and to help in SAICO’s work to carry the message.¬† Read more
For example, suppose there are 4000 phone and skype meetings a month, which seems reasonable considering there are dozens of daily meetings. If an average of 8-10 contributed $1 a meeting, 7th tradition funds would approach $40,000 a month, or almost $500,000 over the year.
Where do we go from here?
Amends. It’s clear to us that a cycle of amends is necessary on the part of all players. It is also important to bring a level of sobriety and civility into the matter. We’d suggest a moratorium on VIG’s efforts to censure saphonemeeting.org and to set direction of cooperation, not competition.
Guidance from Other 12 step fellowships.¬†¬† Beyond that, there is a growing need to support members who employ technology in their recovery. This a broader issue than managing the list of phone meetings and instructions on how to use a phone system. Our committee looked to the other 12 step fellowships as a guide. It’s clear that SA is very far behind. ¬†Having a strong digital presence is especially important today because of special stigma attached to our addiction.¬†¬† In contrast to AA, SA, GA, Al-anon, etc., there are very few meetings in mid-sized and small towns around the world. Our phone and digital meetings are therefore key to our world-wide mission. Please examine Exhibit 5 which surveys the current features provided by the others.
The Rush of Technology. ¬†Whether we like it or not, technology is fast becoming the dominant enabler of human interaction, particularly among our young members. Younger members want to connect with each other with text and social media. Phone, email, even web sites are no longer in vogue. In their place are a wide range of tools which young members use to learn, connect, and become inspired. Unfortunately, there is widespread abuse of this technology which is fueling sexual addiction like never before. The static phone meeting flyer, as well as the entire SA.org site, does not speak to the needs of. most people who are struggling with sex addiction.¬†¬† Worse, soon our fellowship will be facing the challenges of virtual reality-based meetings, life cameras, eye glasses that project digital images, wearable computers, etc. In every case, people are using technology to connect with each other and with a message. The foundation laid today must be adaptable to what is coming without sacrificing our traditions and concepts. Our primary purpose is to carry the message.
Coordination with SAICO’s effort to revitalize worldwide web sites. The recent meeting of the delegates and trustees initiated a committee to look at upgrading SA’s website. We suggest that the committee considers these recommendations works with those of us that would like to see saphonemeeting.org incorporated into the new sites.
The Traditions and Concepts suggest a path to governance. The Traditions and Concepts provide the guidelines that should guide the fellowship to a policies that foster working together for the common good, adaptability, and promote innovation while not compromising our guiding principles. Please look at Exhibit 2 for our thoughts on how the traditions might guide us to meet the technology challenges ahead as well as maneuver out of the difficult personality problems that have arisen between the VIG and SAphonemeeting.org.
EXHIBIT 1. FEATURE COMPARISON OTHER 12 STEP NON FACE TO FACE MEETINGS
EXHIBIT 2. KEY QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED FROM THE 12 TRADITIONS
We all trying to survive in a perilous sea depending on each other despite a wide divergence of opinion, backgrounds, and beliefs. Aren’t we chasing a common goal — serving the member who depends on phone meetings? When we have disagreements what is the best way to resolve them?
What exactly is the fine line one crosses when one begins to “govern”? Bill W provides some instructions on this in the 12 and 12: “…no board of dirctions ..can cast an erring member into outer darkness, when indeed no AA can give another a direction and enforce obedience….” pp 132
How can we embrace the service work of members who desire to stop lusting but struggle with sobriety.?
Does the Intergroup or Region have authority over individual groups? Having a portal for each individual group would, we think, vastly increase the strength and service structure at the group level.
In this dynamic digital world where many young members have fully embraced streaming, social media, how should the message be communicated and delivered ?.
How can a web site serving the needs of phone members, become an “outside” organization?
What financial support do the phone meetings require? What is the best and most economical way for phone meeting members to participate in the 7th tradition?
What are the administrative responsibilities required for the technology that is needed to service virtual meetings?
How should the digital assets committee working on the overall SA technology be working with the current web sites?
When members want to communicate digitally through blogs, chat rooms, and social media, under what conditions should the content be restricted or moderated? By whom? and under what guidelines?
In a digital world what is the best way to announce the existence of a useful website and its new features and capabilities. Secondly, what guidelines should we follow in collecting and distributing personal content information? .
When a member violates this tradition in face to face meetings, one can raise a hand or exercise some body language? What is the digital equivalent?
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Group Conscience – Sample Agenda
Group Conscience Secretary ‚Äď Responsible for organizing and running the monthly business meeting.¬† This includes the preparation of a meeting agenda, taking attendance during the meeting, and keeping minutes.¬† The Group Conscience Secretary is also responsible for maintaining the group call list and communicating group-related information to all meeting secretaries.
Mailbox Administrator ‚Äď Responsible for receiving and replying to all group mail coming to the group e-mail account.¬† Also responsible for distributing meeting notices, agendas, and minutes.
VIG Representative ‚Äď Responsible for attending the monthly Virtual Intergroup meetings, reporting to the VIG on the activities of the noon meeting, discussing any concerns the noon meeting has with the VIG, and reporting back to the noon meeting the business of the VIG.
Meeting Secretary ‚Äď Responsible for starting and facilitating daily SA meeting.¬† This includes following the script to ensure readings are conference-approved, taking attendance, and organizing sharing opportunities for group meetings.¬† Also responsible for ensuring meeting adheres to the 12 Traditions of SA (more details below).
Secretaries for the Weekly Calls (Monday through Sunday):
Group Conscience Secretary Expectations:
Process for Deviation from Expectations Regularly:
SA White Book (pgs. 173-176)
*The following material is taken from the SA Meeting Guide.¬† Answers to many of the questions and issues often confronting new or established SA groups are suggested in this material.¬† All members are urged to read what has proven to be of value in maintaining successful groups and good meeting quality.
The primary purpose of an SA group is “to carry its message to the sexaholic who still suffers” (Tradition 5).¬† Traditionally, as with AA, any two or more sexaholics meeting for purposes of sexual sobriety by following the SA program may consider themselves an SA group, provided that as a group they have no affiliation with any outside enterprise or other fellowship and receive no outside support.¬† The following are suggestions gained from our experience to date.
Starting the Group
1.¬† Find a weekly meeting place and set the time.¬† At first, this may be a private home or office, where anonymity and privacy can be assured.¬† Churches are often willing to provide facilities.¬† Check with churches and other organizations where other Twelve Step program meetings are held.¬† Often such facilities are made available to other groups.¬† Check with the SA Central Office.
2.¬† Select a group secretary, treasurer, and literature chairperson.¬† These are explained below.¬† Members who accept these responsibilities serve the group; they do not govern, in accordance with Tradition Two.
3.¬† Advise the SA Central Office of the name and phone number of the secretary and an alternate contact and meeting particulars.¬† Each SA group should have at least one contact and one backup contact for the SA Central Office for referrals.¬† Advise Central Office of changes.
Should have successful sexual sobriety; length of that sobriety should be agreed upon by the group conscience.¬† Suggested term of office is six months or a year, although each group is autonomous and may hold elections whenever it wishes.¬† Rotating leadership is best.¬† Secretary’s responsibilities include:
1.¬† Selects a person or sees to it that a person is there to lead each meeting and provides that person with meeting format and literature.¬† A good idea is to select the leader a week in advance.
2.¬† Is responsible for the meeting place and notifying members.
3.¬† Maintains communications with SA Central Office and notifies it of any changes.
4.¬† Maintains communication with other nearby SA groups and SA as a whole.¬† Announces SA conventions and get-togethers.
5.¬† Sees to it that the Essay newsletter is available to all members.¬† Each member may also ask to be placed on the Essay mailing list.
6.¬† Handles necessary correspondence and phone calls or delegates these.
7.¬† Calls business or group-conscience meetings.
8.¬† Seeks to incorporate the principles of our Twelve Traditions into the spirit and activities of the group.
Should have successful sobriety; length of that sobriety should be agreed upon by the group conscience.¬† Same term of office as secretary.¬† Responsibilities include:
1.¬† Is custodian and disburser of money received by passing the basket at meetings.¬† Collections are usually counted and recorded by the treasurer and one other member.
2.¬† Keeps detailed accounts of group’s finances and reports on this at business meetings.
3.¬† When directed by the group, sends regular group contribution to SA Central Office for national and world services.¬† The fellowship has evolved a means of supporting its world services that is working.¬† Individual groups, either at every meeting or on a regular basis, pass the basket around a second time, the proceeds of which go entirely to support the SA Central Office.¬† Some groups have the policy that a certain percentage of excess money left over after paying all group expenses be sent regularly to the Central Office.¬† All groups are urged to develop some means of contributing a share in our expanding worldwide Twelfth Step work.¬† Such contributions support the work of the Central Office.¬† SA is totally self-supporting.
4.¬† All member contributions to Sexaholics Anonymous are tax-deductible, since SA is a nonprofit, exempt organization as registered with the U.S.¬† Internal Revenue Service.¬† For countries other than U.S.A., check appropriate ordinances.
Orders literature from the SA Central Office and from A.A.¬† Sees to it that meetings always have a supply of Sexaholics Anonymous, the SA brochure, Recovery Continues, and whatever other SA literature is available, such as Essay and Discovering the Principles.¬† AA literature is the only non-SA material used in meetings.¬† (See the article “Meeting Quality and Use of Non-SA Literature” in Discovering the Principles.)
This is a means for handling the group or inter-group business and policy matters in groups large enough to have one.¬† Service on this committee, like most SA responsibilities, is on a rotating basis.¬† All of the group officers are usually included on the steering committee, with as many other members added as needed.¬† The steering committee serves the group or groups by providing a convenient experienced cross-section of sober group membership to take care of group(s) functioning.
Some groups may find it convenient to have refreshment, setup, and cleanup committees.¬† Some groups operate well with only a secretary and treasurer.¬† The members of the group decide the service structure it needs.