Patience—The ability to wait for something without getting angry or upset is a valuable quality in a person; the ability to wait calmly; the capacity to accept delay without getting angry.
Virtue—a quality or trait that most people consider to be morally good or desirable in a person
Quick Quiz:Â “Patience is a Virtue” suggests that getting angry when you have to wait is:
- a good personal trait
- a bad personal trait
- a sign of patience
For the record when I first came into SA in 1995 one of the first things that I became resentful at was “TIME LIMITS” on shares.
Generally speaking at 90% or more of AA meetings there is no time limit on a shares.Â How do you put a time limit on the “Language of the Heart” by setting restrictions, parameters and stipulations? Time Limits have their ADVANTAGES, don’t get me wrong.Â However, it has been my experience it creates controversy, contention and aggravates patience!!!
I would add, once you establish a time limit, then you need a time keeper.Â however, that responsibility is much greater than one person.Â then the entire meeting and group takes on a DIFFERENT atmosphere.
Thus, in addition to the secretary and/or ONE time keeper, you end up having 3, 4, 5 and perhaps 20 or more time keepers.Â Â Then, the call EXPECTATIONS become more focused on HOW LONG you talk instead of WHAT you talk about.
Quantity vs. Quality
This is a chronic problem with Sexaholics Anonymous because we are almost forced to share our sobriety date during introductions.Â Similarly, it’s a CONTEST of “Length of Sobriety” vs. Quality of Sobriety.Â Shame because you don’t have enough time or that nobody is willing to listen long enough to get to the truth.Â Sad.
What are your thoughts on time limits?