If you are looking for a way to listen to talks from other SA members 24×7 days a week, we have a solution. You can download FREE *.mp3 files to your iPhone and listen anytime at your convenience. Click here

We also have a dedicated phone line with audio tapes available to listen to by calling the following phone number. Dial: 845-859-1190 | Pin: 1552# | (Speakers include Harvey, Jesse, AA, and more)

Instructions

Voice Prompt Menu Commands

Press 1 for AA
1 – Big Book Studies
1 – Joe & Charlie
2 – Scott & Bob
3 – Back to Basics – Wally & Brenda
4 – Big Book Adventures – Chris & Dave
5 – Dub Guy Approach
6 – Scott R. on 12 Steps

2 – AA Humor Series
1 – We are not a Glum lot – Vol. 1
2 – We are not a Glum lot – Vol. 2
3 – Whino Joe

3 – AA Speakers
1 – Sandy B.
2 – Ralph P. on Humility
3 – Joe H. on Spiritual Awakening
4 – Montana Bob on 12 Traditions
5 – Chris & Myers R.
6 – Clancy I.
7 – Chuck C.

4 – Recording of the Books
1 – Recordings of the Big Book
2 – Recordings of the 12 & 12

5 – Recordings of Conventions
1 – Far Corner Retreats

Press 2 for SA
1 – Harvey
2 – Hanna
3 – Jess L.
4 – Best of SA
5 – What we were like and what happened
6 – Roy K.

7 – Reading of the White Book by Roy K.
(1) Problem
(2) Preface
(3) To the Newcomer
(4) A Personal Story
(6) Sexaholism—The Addiction
(7) Lust—The Force Behind the Addiction
(8) The Spiritual Basis of Addiction
(9) The Solution
(10) Getting Started.

8 – Bed B.
9 – 12 Step Workshop

0 – go back to main menu
# – instructions
3 – fast forward 10 sec
9 – fast forward 1 min.
6 – fast forward 3 min.
1 – rewind 10 sec.
7 – rewind 1 min.
4 – rewind 3 min.
5 – pause / resume
* – louder
# – softer

Press # at the main menu to listen to last recording since you hung up

9 to add speaker
8 for updates & instructions > 1 – updates / 2 – instructions

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AA Telephone Meetings
Sober Voices Group

Dial: 712-432-0075
Code: 654-443#

Updated 09/14/14                                                                                                              Established 03/07/04
Everyday – AA Topic Discussion        12pm Noon EST

Sunday’s – BB Study                        10pm EST
Monday’s – Beginners                       10pmEST
Tuesday’s – Vision for You                 10pm EST
Wednesday’s – BB Study                  10pm EST
Thursday’s – 12×12                           10pmEST
Friday’s – Promises                          10pm EST
Saturday’s – Daily Reflections            10pm EST

Friday & Saturday Midnight Meetings 12am Midnight EST
(also AA Topic Discussions)

All meeting topics are suggested and the secretary has the right to change or improvise anything as needed, keeping with the spirit of AA and its traditions.  Our meeting outline contains most of the elements of the “AA Wallet Card” … AA Wallet Card Image

The Sober Voices Group telephone meetings are registered with our New York World Service Office and published
in the Eastern and Western States Directories.  Group #66-62-21.  We send our 7th Tradition contributions individually in care of our group number to G.S.O. in New York by phone, by mail or by internet at aa.org.

The Sober Voices Group’s purpose is to reach out to our fellows with accessibility and special needs, for those who are  home bound, those remote areas and anyon
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SAICO and/or Go hands (3rd party company) requested “cease and desist”.  However, it was more related to the SA White Book.  We still do NOT agree with the following facts:

1. SAICO receives NO MONEY or royalties from the sales of the White Book yet continues to endorse and sell 10,000s of books.
2. Historically, literature sales in AA and other 12 Step programs have always been a major source of income, yet there are several people running the show who are NOT members of SA and collecting a salary
3. AA and many other 12 Step programs publish their literature online for FREE
4. We find it to be preposterous that the SAICO central office took such an AGGRESSIVE position threatening to sue webmaster over this matter
5. It was NEVER webmaster’s intention to profit on the White Book nor violate any laws.  He could NEVER pay back what SA has given him–priceless gift and he’ll always be eternally grateful
6. On our home page we clearly state: “This site is not endorsed by SA, nor does it represent SA as a whole”
7. Read more

Here are some excerpts from the actual letter below…

For the record, here are the chronological facts:

1. When we introduced the www.saphonemeeting.org website in 2009 it received support from one person – Chad C.  I sent out an email to a long list of members soliciting their advice that I knew and he was the ONLY person who replied.
2. The www.sa.org and www.denversa.org webmasters have changed hands, but Chad C has offered lots of sound advice and guidance over the years.
3. In addition, I worked very closely with Kay S. at the SAICO central office to follow certain attribution polices related to copyright laws (e.g. “Adapted with permission from ….”) and non-conference approved literature.
4. The sole purpose of the website was to provide up-to-date phone number changes, codes and new meeting schedule as well as hosting the various custom scripts and formats for each of the meetings
5. There are many SA Members and groups that continue to reference the website including 2215 and 2400 groups because they often do not have a secretary to lead the meeting and ask for someone to facilitate.  What better way to encourage consistency than to refer people to a website where any member can quickly download the script and lead the meeting.  That’s how most people got involved on the Noon teleconference.
6. I prefer to stay out of the controversy with other people’s agendas and will continue to work together with people who are sensible on this matter.

For example, the Baltimore SA Intergroup has worked very hard to introduce new ideas to the fellowship and had one of the most successful International Conventions in the history of SA last year.  Many of the members who I have worked with for counsel and governance on the www.saphonemeeting.org project  are long-standing “SOBER MEMBERS” from the local area, which incidentally was Chad’s suggestion.   Moreover, Sexual recovery is up against the odds–Pornographic websites 4.2 million (12% of total websites).  The sexual advertising culture we live in today has a devastating impact on our society.  It is very, very dangerous when you consider “Child Pornography, Child Sexual Abuse and Human Sex Trafficking”.  Being a family man, which I know you are as well, it is critical that we work together towards the common good.  Not fight against each other.

Take for instance the New York Times Magazine: It ran a cover story on May 18 called “Naked Capitalists: There’s No Business Like Porn Business.” Its thesis: Pornography is big business–with $10 billion to $14 billion in annual sales. The author,  Frank   Rich Frank Rich , suggests that pornography is bigger than any of the major league sports, perhaps bigger than Hollywood. Porn is “no longer a sideshow to the mainstream…it is the mainstream,” he says.   The Country Revenue in China is $27 Billion (number one), South Korea $25B  and Japan $19B.  Sources: Real Truth, Enough, Wiki, Forbes, Family

Lately there have been a lot of updates to the SAPhoneMeetings.  We have tried to capture the most recent updates and publish online so this site is accurate but we need help.  If you are interested in volunteering to help organize this information, please send an email to info@saphonmeeting.org

For example, another new meeting was published on VIG Listings: Central Europe 07:30 pm Every 3rd Thursday White Book Study
Language: French | Phone: 424-203-8405 | Code: 430834#
07:30 pm Fri White Book Study Language: Dutch

Keeping all the individual group scripts up-to-date is very challenging.  We would like to offer some ideas below that we have researched from other 12 Step Phone Bridges / Teleconference meetings => Click here for a sample

Again, we need help with this!  There are many other VERY successful meetings that have some fantastic language and guidelines.  If you come across something, please send it to info@saphonemeeting.org.  Thanks in advance for your support!

Moreover, we have started TESTING a new “pilot” line with more advanced features on the Midnight call.  We believe this will help eliminate background noise, hecklers and disruptions with the primary purpose “Each group has but one primary purpose— to carry its message to the sexaholic who still suffers”  (Tradition 5).  The overall goal is to improve the quality of the 12 Step Teleconference meeting for ALL SA MEMBERS!

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Covet: 10th Commandment – Life, Hope & Truth

“You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife”
Deuteronomy 5:21

Covet— to desire wrongfully, inordinately, or without due regard for the rights of others:  to covet another’s property; to wish for, especially eagerly

Now, I’ve heard there was a secret chord
That David played, and it pleased the Lord
But you don’t really care for music, do you?
It goes like this, the fourth, the fifth
The minor fall, the major lift
The baffled king composing hallelujah

Hallelujah
Hallelujah
Hallelujah
Hallelujah

Your faith was strong but you needed proof
You saw her bathing on the roof
Her beauty and the moonlight overthrew ya
She tied you to a kitchen chair
She broke your throne, and she cut your hair
And from your lips she drew the hallelujah

Hallelujah
Hallelujah
Hallelujah
Hallelujah

You say I took the name in vain
I don’t even know the name
But if I did, well really, what’s it to you?
There’s a blaze of light in every word
It doesn’t matter which you heard
The holy or the broken hallelujah

Hallelujah
Hallelujah
Hallelujah
Hallelujah

I did my best, it wasn’t much
I couldn’t feel, so I tried to touch
I’ve told the truth, I didn’t come to fool you
And even though it all went wrong
I’ll stand before the lord of song
With nothing on my tongue but hallelujah

Hallelujah
Hallelujah
Hallelujah
Hallelujah…

By Leonard Cohen / Listen

Who can say where the road goes
Where the day flows, only time
And who can say if your love grows
As your heart chose, only time

Who can say why your heart sighs
As your love flies, only time
And who can say why your heart cries
When your love lies, only time

Who can say when the roads meet
That love might be in your heart
And who can say when the day sleeps
If the night keeps all your heart
Night keeps all your heart

Who can say if your love grows
As your heart chose
Only time
And who can say where the road goes
Where the day flows, only time

Who knows? Only time

By Enya / Listen

Children are God’s little blessings.

I was just talking to a friend of mine in Utah.  He is a single Dad with two kids – daughter and son, just like me.

I told him, I have lots of friends in Sexaholics Anonymous that fall into one of the following categories:

1. Single, never married, no children
2. Single, divorced, no children
3. Married, no children
4. Single, adult children (over age 18)
5. Married, adult children (over age 18)

I am married going on 14 years and have a 11 year old daughter and a 9 year old son.  Both of them have NEVER seen me drink or get high.  I used to be an terrible addict and ODAAT I am getting better, thanks to SA.  Incidentally, my AA sobriety date is 11/7/96.

So, what’s the point?

The point is this.  It is very hard talking to people sometimes who don’t have young children because I don’t think they understand how DIFFICULT life can be raising them.  Even if their children are grown up, they probably are forgot or are certainly not feeling nearly the anxiety that I feel on a daily basis.

And to make matters worse, I have been really struggling in my career.  I had a great job 1-1/2 years ago as a college professor.  Unfortunately, I was fired because I could not relate better to the students.  Truthfully, I think I may have been too strict on them because I was punishing them for the mistakes I made as an undergraduate student and wanted to teach them a VALUABLE lesson.  Study hard.  Don’t take education for granted.

“How shall we come to terms with seeming failure or success? Can we now accept and adjust to either without despair or pride? Can we accept poverty, sickness, loneliness, and bereavement with courage and serenity? Can we steadfastly content ourselves with the humbler, yet sometimes more durable, satisfactions when the brighter, more glittering achievements are denied us?” (AA Daily Reflections 12/26)

Today’s meditation brings up several thoughts today:

1. Xmas Presents.
2. New Year’s resolutions. Six days left in 2015.
3. Promises & Regret
4. 3rd & 7th Step Prayers

No one can go back in time to change what has happened, so work on your present to make yourself a wonderful future.   Read more

Devil’s Advocate—a person who expresses a contentious opinion in order to provoke debate or test the strength of the opposing arguments.
“the interviewer will need to play devil’s advocate to put the other side’s case forward”

“Vanity – is defenitely my favourite sin”

Vanity—excessive pride in one’s appearance, qualities, abilities, achievements, etc.; character or quality of being vain; conceit: Failure to be elected was a great blow to his vanity.

What is “normal / healthy” intimacy?

Thank God for the feedback regarding groping – to search for something by reaching or touching usually with your fingers in an awkward way; to touch (someone) in an unwanted and unexpected sexual way.

“I could see a girl in a bikini on a billboard five years ago and it wouldn’t bother me; now, I go to pieces and lose my mind over it.”
“Lust throws my whole system out of whack. I lose my equilibrium, my control, and have to recover as if from a poison.”  SA WB pg. 32

Covenant Eyes
Internet Accountability and Filtering

grope—feel about or search blindly or uncertainly with the hands.
“she got up and groped for her spectacles”

fumble, scrabble, fish, ferret, rummage, feel, search, hunt
“she groped for her glasses”

search mentally with hesitation or uncertainty for (a word or answer).
“she was groping for the words which would express what she thought”

move along with difficulty by feeling objects as one goes.
“she blew out the candle and groped her way to the door”

informal—feel or fondle (someone) for sexual pleasure, especially against their will. “he was accused of groping office girls”.  synonyms: fondle, touch.

feminist; plural noun: feminists

a person who supports feminism.

of, relating to, or supporting feminism.
“feminist literature”

Do you have a hammer?  Do you need a hammer? Do you hammer other people?  Are you kind or are you gentle?  Perhaps, you need a rubber mallet.

Regardless, I was told, I must keep my tools nice and sharp.  How about a tool chest?

How I Overcame My Obsession with Lust

“…By letting God do it. Because I couldn’t. But God could and would—and did. But I had to go to meetings to learn things like that… Going to meetings and working the Steps; that’s how I did it. That’s how I learned to let “the grace of God enter to expel the obsession.” Here’s what worked for me:

1. Stop practicing the compulsion. I stopped acting out sexually in any and all forms, including sex with myself and non-marital relationships. There could be no relief from the obsession of lust while still practicing the acts of lust.
2. Stop feeding the obsession. This meant eliminating from what was under my control all printed and visual materials and other symbols of my tyranny. I had to stop feeding my lust by looking around, in my use of television, movies, and music; and by using and listening to the language of lust. I also had to stop living only and always inside my own head. That’s one of the great fringe benefits of going to a lot of meetings. Most of us sexaholics really live on the inside of our heads; we’re seldom in the real world.
3. Participate in the fellowship of the program. I don’t know of anyone who can stay sober and free of the obsession of lust without such fellowship. I couldn’t. Fellowship is where the action is, where the magic is, where Connection is, where feeling part of is.  At first, all I could do was attend meetings. Then I followed the suggestion of getting involved in the mechanics of meetings: setting up, cleaning up, holding jobs such as literature chairman, treasurer, or secretary. Getting involved made me feel I could be part of, instead of apart from—my old nemesis. Later, I would be able to go out for coffee, start meeting with others one-on-one, and begin the painful but necessary process of growing up by coming out.” (SA WB pg. 158)