Did you know that both words have the same letters?

There is a famous saying, “take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mouth.  Listen to learn, and learn to listen”.

If you are new to Sexaholics Anonymous, it is suggested that you listen to others in the beginning before you start sharing.  This way you can learn about the various suggested guidelines and personality of the 12 Step meeting.

Generally, every 12 Step program is different and you will find that just about every group / meeting is slightly different.  This is true for obvious reasons.  SLAA & SAA will describe different forms of sexual sobriety than SA.  Whereas, AA and NA will often be too embarrassed to talk about about the ‘elephant in the room’.

When I started SA, around 1995 (give or take a year, it’s a little foggy, being it was so long ago) I remember folks suggesting going to Alanon as a supplement to the “S” fellowship because there were more meetings to choose from.  The nice thing about Alanon is that they accept just about everyone and are not as strict about specific addictions and have some of the best phone meetings.  In fact, most Alcoholics say they first stopped drinking and then started going to Alanon to learn more about relationships.

Interestingly enough, a friend of mine gave me a copy of the AA Grapevine over 10 years ago and guess what was on the cover?  “Now about Sex”.  The stories that followed were all about relationships.

Unfortunately, when you join a SA Phone Meeting, there is a good chance that you may witness some strange behavior.  The attendance ranges from 5-50 callers with an average around 20 people.

The other day, during the 0830 business meeting I shared the following observations:

1. The Daily Sobriety Renewal (DSR) phone calls are problematic simply by the mere nature of the meeting format.
2. When Roy K. (founder of SA) first introduced the DSR questions, I suspect he meant it to be something that a small number of guys (4-5 people) in his accountability circle would discuss on a daily basis.  Or perhaps a one-on-one discussion with your sponsor, as I did with Bill W. Read more.
3. I found out later, hindsight is 20/20, that the real purpose of the renewal call was for me.  Not for anyone else.  My sponsor was simply trying to get me to admit and accept that I was a sex addict and the only way I could stay sober for any length of time was focus on the next 24 hours.
4. When we started the 12:00 p.m. Noon SA teleconference, we had an caller get into a car accident and it was very disruptive to everyone at the meeting.  This was before we had the ability to mute the entire line.  However, for 45 minutes everyone sat there trying to tell the guilty caller to “mute your line”.  Eventually, he got back on the line after we listened to sirens and people yelling, exactly what had happened.  As you can imagine, everyone on the call, immediately changed their perspective and felt empathetic.  “Oh, are you alright? are you hurt?”  The lesson here is, pray for patience & tolerance.  But be careful, you might just get what you ask for.
5. I have also noticed that moderators some times behave worse than the caller who is “un-muted”.  It is really a testimony of recovery for the person sharing and the secretary how they handle the aggravating noise and annoying sounds.  It’s as though people take it too personal, when much of the time it is completely innocent.
6. The best solution ALL of the SA Phone meetings should do is enable the mute feature by default so that when callers first join, they are automatically muted.
7. We can learn a lot by other 12 Step programs such as Alanon, OA and Greysheets who have mastered the phone bridge and navigating difficult situations.
8. When I started coming to the SA phone meetings shortly after they started in 2004 there was a lot of KAOS to say the least.  Not only was there background noise, most of the callers were NOT sober and talked about very toxic, graphical images.  It was not a sober environment.  The same challenges with control, power and people talking over one another (shouting to be precise) still exist today, but it has gotten exponentially better.
9. Shortly after this website was formed, the phone lines changed over and over.  I believe this website has always played a integral role in sparking the changes with the phone meetings.  Read more  The PBX system that originally hosted the meetings would frequently freeze up and shut down due to capacity limits and thus in order to resolve someone needed to manually restart the server.
10. In 2009, the phone line was down for 7 straight days and there was NO Sexaholics Anonymous phone meeting (PERIOD).  Imagine how you would react if you were accustomed to attending a SA meeting daily and then all of a sudden there was no way to get through.  That’s why this website began!
11. Today we use a 3rd party service by free conference and rarely is there a problem with the line being unavailable. Read more
12. Lastly, if you do the math, when there are 20 callers on the line, that means if there are 3 questions or requests by moderator to say something, you have to mute yourself afterwards.  Thus, 3 times each caller needs to mute themselves also means 3 more times they need to un-mute themselves.  Multiply that by the number of callers and you get well over 100 times that you are rely on others to do the right thing.  It really boils down to patience and tolerance.  More importantly, TRUST.  Just like when you are driving over a bridge, you trust the bridge will not collapse.  Or when you are driving down a 2 lane road and you trust the oncoming traffic will stay in their lane.  Trust that others are rooting for you.  Even if you notice rude behavior, trust the process, trust Sexaholics Anonymous and trust God that he wants the best for his children.

Hinduism. a word or formula, as from the Veda, chanted or sung as an incantation or prayer. an often repeated word, formula, or phrase, often a truism: If I hear the “less is more” mantra one more time, I’ll scream.”

“GOD has a plan for me.  It is hidden within me, just as the oak is hidden within the acorn, or the rose within the bud.  As I yield myself more fully to God, His Plan expresses itself more perfectly through me.  I can tell when I am in tune with it, for then my mind and my heart are filled with a deep inner peace.  This peace fills me with a sense of security, with joy, and a desire to take the steps that are a part of the Plan.

God’s Plan for me is a perfect part of a larger Plan.  It is designed for the good of all and not for me alone.  It is a many-sided Plan and reaches out through all the people I meet.  All the events and people who come into my life are instruments of the unfolding of this Plan.

God has chosen those people He wants me to know, to love and to serve.  We are continually being drawn to one another in ways that are not coincidental.  I pray that I may become a better instrument to love and to serve and that I may become more worthy to receive the love and service of others.

I ask the Father within me for only those things which He wants me to have.  I know that these benefits will come to me at the right time and in the right way.  This inner knowing frees my mind and heart from all fear, greed, jealousy, anger and resentment.  It gives me courage and faith to do those things which I feel are mine to do.  I no longer look with envy at what others are receiving.  Therefore, I do not cut myself off from God, the giver of all good things.

God’s gifts to me can be many times greater than I am now receiving.  I pray that I may increase my capacity to give, for I can give only as I receive, and receive only as I give.

I believe that when I cannot do those things I desire to do, it is because God has closed one door only to leave ajar a better and larger door.  If I do not see the door just ahead, it is because I have not seen, heard, or obeyed God’s guidance.  It is then that God uses the trouble of seeming failure which may result to help me face myself, and see the new opportunity before me.

The real purpose of my life is to find God within my own mind and heart, and to help my fellowmen.  I thank my Father for each experience which helps me to surrender my will to His Will.  For only as I lose myself in the consciousness of His Great Presence can His Plan for my life be fulfilled.” Matt Talbot

If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free.  If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free.  Ask for their health, their prosperity, their happiness, and you will be free.  Even when you don’t really want it for them, and your prayers are only words and you don’t mean it, go ahead and do it anyway.  Do it every day for two weeks and you will find you have come to mean it and to want it for them, and you will realize that where you used to feel bitterness and resentment and hatred, you now feel compassionate understanding and love. Big Book pg. 552

Selfishness – self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.  Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate.  Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt.

So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making.  They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn’t think so.  Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness.  We must, or it kills us!  God makes that possible. Big Book pg. 62

And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation – some fact of my life – unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.  Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes. Big Book pg. 417

Perhaps the best thing of all for me is to remember that my serenity is inversely proportional to my expectations.  I must keep my magic magnifying mind on my acceptance and off my expectations, for my serenity is directly proportional to my level of acceptance.  Big Book pg. 420

It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us.  If somebody hurts us and we are sore, we are in the wrong also.  But are there no exceptions to this rule?  What about “justifiable” anger?  If somebody cheats us, aren’t we entitled to be mad?  Can’t we be properly angry with self-righteous folk?  For us of the human race these are dangerous exceptions.  We have found that justifiable anger ought to be left to those better qualified to handle it. Twelve & Twelve pg. 90 When we speak or act hastily or rashly, the ability to be fair-minded and tolerant evaporates on the spot.  One unkind tirade or one willful snap judgment can ruin our relation with another person for a whole day, or maybe a whole year.  Nothing pays off like restraint of tongue and pen.  We must avoid quick-tempered criticism and furious, power-driven argument.  The same goes for sulking or silent scorn.  These are emotional booby traps baited with pride and vengefulness. Twelve & Twelve pg. 91

Amazing Grace! How sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me!  I once was lost, but now am found; was blind, but now I see. John Newton

I am not what I ought to be. I am not what I want to be. I am not what I hope to be. Thank God, I am not what I used to be.

MAN IN THE GLASS
When you get what you want in your struggle for self And the world makes you king for a day, Just go to a mirror and look at yourself And see what THAT man has to say.

For it isn’t your father or mother or wife Who judgment upon you must pass; The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life Is the one staring back from the glass.

Some people may think you a straight-shootin’ chum And call you a wonderful guy, But the man in the glass says you’re only a bum If you can’t look him straight in the eye.

He’s the fellow to please, never mind all the rest, For he’s with you clear up to the end. And you’ve passed your most dangerous, difficult test If the man in the glass is your friend.

You may fool the whole world down the pathway of life And get pats on your back as you pass. But your final reward will be heartaches and tears If you’ve cheated the man in the glass.

JUST FOR TODAY
1. Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life’s problem at once. I can do things for 12 hours that would appall me if I had to keep them up for a lifetime.

2. Just for today I will be happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true, that “most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Happiness is from within; it is not a matter  of externals.

3. Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my family, my business, and my licks as they come and fit myself to them.

4. Just for today I will take care of my body. I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not abuse or neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding.

5. Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought, and concentration.

6. Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out; I will do at least two things I don’t want to do, as William James suggests, just for exercise.

7. Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as possible, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticize not at all, nor find fault with anything — and not try to regulate or improve anyone.

8. Just for today I will have a program. I will write down what I expect to do every hour. I may not follow it all exactly, but I will have it. It will eliminate two pests: hurry and indecision.

9. Just for today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself and relax. In this half-hour sometimes I will thank God, so as to get a better perspective of my life.

10. Just for today I will be unafraid, especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those I love, love me.

YESTERDAY–TODAY–TOMORROW
There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension. One of these days is YESTERDAY with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. YESTERDAY has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the world cannot bring back YESTERDAY. We cannot undo a single act we performed; we cannot erase a single word we said…YESTERDAY is gone.   The other day we should not worry about is TOMORROW with its possible adversaries, its burdens, its large promise and poor performance. TOMORROW is also beyond our immediate control. TOMORROW’S sun will rise, either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds- but it will rise. Until it does, we have no stake in TOMORROW for it is yet unborn.   This leaves only one day…. TODAY. Any man can fight the battle of just one day. It is only when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities…. YESTERDAY AND TOMORROW that we break down. It is not the experience of TODAY that drives men mad– it is remorse and bitterness for something which happened YESTERDAY and the dread of what TOMORROW may bring.

LET US, THEREFORE, LIVE BUT ONE DAY AT A TIME!

Patience—The ability to wait for something without getting angry or upset is a valuable quality in a person; the ability to wait calmly; the capacity to accept delay without getting angry.

Virtue—a quality or trait that most people consider to be morally good or desirable in a person

Quick Quiz:  “Patience is a Virtue” suggests that getting angry when you have to wait is:

1. a good personal trait
2. a bad personal trait
3. a sign of patience

For the record when I first came into SA in 1995 one of the first things that I became resentful at was “TIME LIMITS” on shares.

Generally speaking at 90% or more of AA meetings there is no time limit on a shares.  How do you put a time limit on the “Language of the Heart” by setting restrictions, parameters and stipulations? Time Limits have their ADVANTAGES, don’t get me wrong.  However, it has been my experience it creates controversy, contention and aggravates patience!!!

I would add, once you establish a time limit, then you need a time keeper.  however, that responsibility is much greater than one person.  then the entire meeting and group takes on a DIFFERENT atmosphere.

Thus, in addition to the secretary and/or ONE time keeper, you end up having 3, 4, 5 and perhaps 20 or more time keepers.   Then, the call EXPECTATIONS become more focused on HOW LONG you talk instead of WHAT you talk about.

Quantity vs. Quality

This is a chronic problem with Sexaholics Anonymous because we are almost forced to share our sobriety date during introductions.  Similarly, it’s a CONTEST of “Length of Sobriety” vs. Quality of Sobriety.  Shame because you don’t have enough time or that nobody is willing to listen long enough to get to the truth.  Sad.

What are your thoughts on time limits?

WOW, in case you are wondering I stated my apologies up front that I will “probably do it wrong, but I will be trying as best as I can”.  Thus, it is absolutely amazing that we join this call to try and support one another but unfortunately, we are all VICTIMS of Sex Addiction.  Thus, we all struggle with a “mental illness” that our literature says we are “self-centered”.

So, even though I volunteered to be your “trusted servant” and it helps me to stay engaged in the meeting and more attentive on the call, I am quickly reminded that the DISEASE or (DIS-EASE) is much stronger than my best intentions.  Specifically, “Dan from Illinois” who took it upon himself to step on my toes and replace me.  For the record, the secretary who shared first went over the 120 second time limit, then the 2nd caller went over, and the 3rd caller went over, etc.

Why is it that nobody has any conception of time?  See, in my opinion it comes down to CONTROL.  We are incapable of controlling our disease of addiction.  The serenity prayer reminds us all, “God grant me the serenity to accept the things we cannot change…”.  Thus, people places and things. “Control freaks, trying to control other control freaks.”  Furthermore, I realize this sounds a little cynical, critical and self-righteous BUT… “Stay in your own lane”!!! Mind your own business.  Live and Let Live.  It’s embarrassing. Rude. ROLE MODEL.  Walk the walk, don’t just Talk the Talk.

“Selfishness—self-centeredness!

That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we

have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt.

So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn’t think so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us! God makes that possible. And there often seems no way of entirely getting rid of self without His aid. Many of us had moral and philosophical convictions galore, but we could not live up to them even though we would have liked to. Neither could we reduce our self-centeredness much by wishing or trying on our own power. We had to have God’s help.

This is the how and why of it. First of all, we had to quit playing God”

(AA BB pg. 62) Click here

MidLife Crisis

I really feel like I’m going through a very difficult time in my life.  I’m 48 years old and there are so many things I HAVE NOT accomplished.

The good news, I FIRMLY believe, beyond a shadow of a doubt, God introduced my wife and I 24 years ago and we have remained somewhat “happily married” for the past 14 years.

More importantly, I have never had an Extramarital Affair and/or committed Adultery.

YET = Your Eligible Too

But I sure have come close!

Midlife crisis is a term first coined by Elliott Jaques referring to a critical phase in a person’s life during the forties to early sixties, based on periods of transition. The period is said to vary among individuals and between men and women. Despite popular perception of this phenomenon, empirical research has failed to show that the midlife crisis is a universal experience, or even a real condition at all.

According to psychologist and writer Oliver Robinson, a life crisis is defined as a period characterized by unstable mental and emotional health, altering the course of life of those affected by it, and affecting them for a year or longer. Life crises usually have similar characteristics for each age group. Those in the early midlife stage are more likely to experience the deaths of loved ones, while declines in physical strength and vitality and impending death or work stoppage are more likely to affect people in late midlife. Effects of crises vary from being beneficial to some and life altering in a negative way for others. About half the people studied found results of their crises to be positive. Read more

Temptation

Text messaging, phone calls, chat rooms…

Remember the story about the “forbidden fruit” in the Bible?

Cyberstalking is the use of the Internet or other electronic means to stalk or harass an individual, a group, or an organization. It may include false accusations, defamation, slander and libel. It may also include monitoring, identity theft, threats, vandalism, solicitation for sex, or gathering information that may be used to threaten or harass.

Cyberstalking is often accompanied by realtime or offline stalking. Both are criminal offenses. Both are motivated by a desire to control, intimidate or influence a victim. A stalker may be an online stranger or a person whom the target knows. He may be anonymous and solicit involvement of other people online who do not even know the target.

Cyberstalking is a criminal offense under various state anti-stalking, slander and harassment laws. A conviction can result in a restraining order, probation, or criminal penalties against the assailant, including jail.

Orgasm (from Greek ὀργασμός orgasmos “excitement, swelling”; also sexual climax) is the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual excitement during the sexual response cycle, resulting in rhythmic muscular contractions in the pelvic region characterized by sexual pleasure. Experienced by males and females, orgasms are controlled by the involuntary or autonomic nervous system. They are often associated with other involuntary actions, including muscular spasms in multiple areas of the body, a general euphoric sensation and, frequently, body movements and vocalizations. The period after orgasm (known as the refractory period) is often a relaxing experience, attributed to the release of the neurohormones oxytocin and prolactin as well as endorphins (or “endogenous morphine”).

Human orgasms usually result from physical sexual stimulation of the penis in males (typically accompanying ejaculation), and the clitoris in females. Sexual stimulation can be by self-practice (masturbation) or with a sex partner (penetrative sex, non-penetrative sex, or other sexual activity).

The health effects surrounding the human orgasm are diverse. There are many physiological responses during sexual activity, including a relaxed state created by prolactin, as well as changes in the central nervous system such as a temporary decrease in the metabolic activity of large parts of the cerebral cortex while there is no change or increased metabolic activity in the limbic (i.e., “bordering”) areas of the brain. There is also a wide range of sexual dysfunctions, such as anorgasmia. These effects impact cultural views of orgasm, such as the beliefs that orgasm and the frequency/consistency of it are important or irrelevant for satisfaction in a sexual relationship, and theories about the biological and evolutionary functions of orgasm.

Ejaculation is the discharge of semen (usually containing sperm) from the male reproductory tract, normally accompanied by orgasm. It is usually the final stage and natural objective of male sexual stimulation, and an essential component of natural conception. In rare cases, ejaculation occurs because of prostatic disease. Ejaculation may also occur spontaneously during sleep (a nocturnal emission or “wet dream”). Anejaculation is the condition of being unable to ejaculate. Dysejaculation is ejaculation that is painful or uncomfortable.

Extramarital sex occurs when a married person engages in sexual activity with someone other than his or her spouse. From a different perspective, it also applies to a single person having sex with a married person. Engagement in extramarital sex has been associated with individuals who have a higher libido (sex drive) than their partner.

Where extramarital sexual relations breach a sexual norm, it may also be referred to as adultery (sexual acts between a married person and a person other than the spouse), fornication (sexual acts between unmarried people), philandery, or infidelity. These terms may also carry moral or religious consequences in civil or religious law.

The Petraeus scandal is a series of events that garnered strong media attention when an extramarital affair between retired four-star general David Petraeus, then Director of the Central Intelligence Agency (CIA), and Paula Broadwell became public information. Petraeus had chosen Broadwell to be his official biographer. She co-authored All In: The Education of General David Petraeus, his biography, when Petraeus was the International Security Assistance Force commander. On November 9, 2012, she was reported to have been involved in the extramarital affair with Petraeus that triggered his resignation as Director of the Central Intelligence Agency when it was discovered by the FBI.

Read more:

• Cyberstalking
• Orgasm
• Ejaculation
• Extramarital Sex
• Petraeus Scandal

Sessions by the Sea

2015 AA Convention in Ocean City, MD

I would like to tell you a story about how I spent this past week. I met 3 different guys name Frank, another man name Steve and lastly an usual fella name George.

It reminds me of the movie, “The Jerk” describing what I need (Watch video).  It also reminds me of a joke I heard many years ago in Alcoholics Anonymous about how God grants miracles. A religious man is on top of a roof during a great flood. A man comes by in a boat and says “get in, get in!” The religious man replies, ” no I have faith in God, he will grant me a miracle.”

Later the water is up to his waist and another boat comes by and the guy tells him to get in again. He responds that he has faith in god and god will give him a miracle. With the water at about chest high, another boat comes to rescue him, but he turns down the offer again cause “God will grant him a miracle.”

With the water at chin high, a helicopter throws down a ladder and they tell him to get in, mumbling with the water in his mouth, he again turns down the request for help for the faith of God. He arrives at the gates of heaven with broken faith and says to Peter, I thought God would grand me a miracle and I have been let down.” St. Peter chuckles and responds, “I don’t know what you’re complaining about, we sent you three boats and a helicopter.” (here is a similar story and another about when God sends helicopter).

The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

Living ONE DAY AT A TIME; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardship as the Pathway to peace.  Taking, as He did, this Sinful world as it is, Not as I would have it. Trusting that He will make All things right if I Surrender to His Will;  That I may be reasonably happy In this life, and supremely Happy with Him forever in The next. Amen

(WB pg. 210 | Reinhold Neibuhr-1926)

The Bible

“But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:27-28)

Jimmy Carter’s ‘Lust in the Heart’: Feeding Frenzy Carter admitted in an unsolicited comment to two Playboy freelance writers that he had “looked on a lot of women with lust” and had “committed adultery in my heart many times,” strange revelations all the more damaging because they appeared in a soft-porn magazine. (Playboy Interview – 1976)  Read more

White Book

“Then he asks me if I believe in a power greater than myself, whether I call that power God, Allah, Confucius, Prime Cause, Divine Mind, or any other name…I am on a train, headed for a city. I have left my wife at home, sick, and I have been unkind to her in leaving. I am very unhappy…A great fear seizes me…Things are not going so well at home. I am learning that I cannot have my own way as I used to. I blame my wife and children. Anger possesses me, anger such as I have never felt before.” (AA BB pg. 214-216)

Acknowledgements
Special thanks to the following people who are the real angels this past week: Ericka, Adrian, Bernie, Sheila and Stephen.

“We can do together what I cannot do alone.”

Timeline and other Historical Milestones

On April 12, 2009 the founder of the 6:30 a.m. DSR shared a copy of the script and the next day this website was born.
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On December 8, 2011, the founder of Europe and Middle East Region (EMER) website approved this website and posted a hyperlink accordingly.

Recently, on November 14, 2015 the Baltimore Area Intergroup (BAIG) approved and voted unanimously to support this website.
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New Project…Coming Soon

My present job as an Uber driver puts me face-to-face with temptation on a daily basis. Unfortunately, there are a lot of parties and festivals this weekend in Baltimore (e.g. http://baltimorecomiccon.com, Power Plant Live, Pier V pavillion and Druid Hill park).

Below are a few terms and definitions according to Webster dictionary that were surfaced from some of the wild “taxi rides”.

Slut—promiscuous woman; prostitute; a saucy girl; minx; slutty clothes; bimbo; hoochie; Jezebel; floozy, tramp, wench, whore

Minx—a sexually attractive and playful woman who often causes trouble; a pert girl; a wanton woman; a clever little minx; a blond actress who was usually typecast as the minx in melodramas

Hoochie—a sexually promiscuous young woman; took up with some hoochie he had met at a biker bar; hootchy-kootchy exotic dance

Jezebel—the Phoenician wife of Ahab who according to the account in I and II Kings pressed the cult of Baal on the Israelite kingdom but was finally killed in accordance with Elijah’s prophecy; shameless, or morally unrestrained woman; as far as the family matriarch was concerned, her son’s fiancée was a gold digger and a Jezebel

Grope—feel or fondle (someone) for sexual pleasure, especially against their will. “he was accused of groping office girls”; fondle, touch

“Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.”  Thank God for our 12 Traditions.

Today, I was @ a noon telemeeting and the secretary/facilitator stated the above comment.  I found it to be very interesting because in the course of suggesting a proposed format change and/or addition to the regular script he was silence querying the members on the call for feedback.  Since he was so humble by asking if anyone was adamantly opposed to his ideas, it was unanimously accepted and supported.

Personally, this is something I need to work on FREQUENTLY.  Whenever I get a brilliant idea, so I think I need to be humble enough to listen to the group and find out if others agree.  Sometimes my ideas are not going to be received well for what ever reason, but I need to be open to that possibility and not take it personally.  It’s been my experience, many times when I suggest something, and someone else disagrees, there is a misunderstanding.  It could very well be my misunderstanding or the other party may not know all the facts or the motivation of my suggestion.

YESTERDAY–TODAY–TOMORROW
There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension.
One of these days is YESTERDAY with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. YESTERDAY has passed forever beyond our control.
All the money in the world cannot bring back YESTERDAY. We cannot undo a single act we performed; we cannot erase a single word we said…YESTERDAY is gone.

The other day we should not worry about is TOMORROW with its possible adversaries, its burdens, its large promise and poor performance. TOMORROW is also beyond our immediate control.
TOMORROW’S sun will rise, either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds- but it will rise. Until it does, we have no stake in TOMORROW for it is yet unborn.

This leaves only one day…. TODAY. Any man can fight the battle of just one day. It is only when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities…. YESTERDAY AND TOMORROW that we break down.
It is not the experience of TODAY that drives men mad– it is remorse and bitterness for something which happened YESTERDAY and the dread of what TOMORROW may bring.
LET US, THEREFORE, LIVE BUT ONE DAY AT A TIME!

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