It’s very interesting how some people interpret “attraction rather than promotion” when someone makes an announcement at a Sexaholics Anonymous meeting.

According to our 11th Tradition, “Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, and TV.”

service_announcementNotice that our very own SA Essay newsletter states that “opinions expressed are not to be attributed to SA as a whole, nor does publication of any article imply endorsement by SA”.

Thus, this also relates to “SAICO Conference Approved” literature, another controversial subject and often misunderstood.

It’s been my experience that some people get this mixed up with propaganda.  The definition means information, ideas, or rumors deliberately spread widely to help or harm a person, group, movement, institution, nation, etc.

gay_propagandaThis interpretation sounds a lot like listening to the political debates in our country.  A lot of candidates say they will not engage in negative campaigns but do it anyway.  Consequently, there is a lot of rhetoric and false promises.  The definition of rhetoric (in writing or speech) is the undue use of exaggeration or display; bombast.

Meanwhile, in my opinion I think that what is really at the heart of most of these controversies is EGO (easing god out).  For example, using the political debates again as an example, how often do you hear candidates complain that so and so got more air time? Thus, they are essentially complaining about unfair treatment or favoritism.

Sure, it is generally obvious to the entire world when folks are grandstanding and showing off.  By definition, this is to conduct oneself or perform showily or ostentatiously in an attempt to impress onlookers.  So, if you find yourself talking a lot, perhaps you should read this article, click here.


What’s in our Banner?

We respect the Copyright laws of Sexaholics Anonymous.  Thus, we had to come up with our own logo for the SA Teleconference Website.

The #1 purpose of this web site is “To serve the fellowship of Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)”.

men-women_rest_room_iconIf you like the website, join our committee.  If you do NOT like our website, join our committee.  In other words, “we can do together what I cannot do alone”.  If you have a suggestion, constructive criticism, question, etc. then we welcome your input !

Nevertheless, where do you commonly see the man/woman logo?  At every restroom door, right?  Notice the S-Anon logo includes “Family Groups”.  Our official Sexaholics Anonymous logo has a very s-anon_logo_blackunique standard gender symbol denoting male ♂ and female ♀ .  This is derived from astrological symbols, denoting the classical planets Mars and Venus, respectively.

These symbols have been in use since the Renaissance also denoting elements in alchemy, specifically the metals iron and copper.

They were first used to denote the effective sex of plants (i.e. sex of individual in a given crossbreed, since most plants are hermaphroditic) by Carolus Linnaeus in 1751.

SA_logoThey are still used in scientific publications to indicate the sex of an individual, for example of a patient. Pedigree charts published in scientific papers now more commonly use a square for male and a circle for female.

The shape of the Mars symbol has been likened to an iron-tipped spear (i.e. a weapon mainly used by men) and shape of the Venus symbol to a bronze mirror or a distaff male-female_logo.jpg
(stereotypically associated with women in former centuries). Read more

Here is our logo for SAPhoneMeeting website…


We also have a “Splash page” that changes frequently.  Currently we are featuring the band Cold Play who played during the Super Bowl L halftime show.

All music is what awakes from you when you are reminded by the instruments.
—Walt Whitman

A small group of friends sat in a room around a record player. It was a heavy old thing, with parts that had to be operated by hand and only one speaker – nothing like a modern stereo at all, but more like an antique phonograph. The record – a recording of their favorite music – was old, too, and scratched, its grooves worn smooth as a stone in some places. The tone arm skipped and scratched, and the sound was tinny, hard on the ears.

Most of the friends squirmed in their seats as they listened, and several grumbled that it was impossible to hear the music with such inferior equipment.

But one of the group sat listening, her eyes closed, swaying to the music and humming softly to herself.

“How can you enjoy this?” the others asked.

“Ah,” she said with a mysterious smile. “I am listening beyond the recording to the music I know is there!”

Can I find the music that’s playing for me today?

(From Today’s Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation.)


Happy New Year !!!

Look to this day,
For it is life,
The very life of life.
In its brief course lie all
The realities and verities of existence,
The bliss of growth,
The splendor of action,
The glory of power —
For yesterday is but a dream,
And tomorrow is only a vision,
But today, well lived,
Makes every yesterday a dream of happiness
And every tomorrow a vision of hope.
Look well, therefore, to this day.
Sanskrit proverb

Top ten places around the world to spend New Year’s Eve

  1. New York, NY

  2. Edinburgh, Scotland

  3. Sydney, Australia

  4. Lake Tahoe, California
    Lake Tahoe

  5. Paris, France

  6. London, England

  7. Vienna, Austria

  8. Miami, Florida

  9. Las Vegas, Nevada
    Las Vegas

  10. Hawaii

THERE are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension.

One of these days is YESTERDAY with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. YESTERDAY has passed forever beyond our control.

All the money in the world cannot bring back YESTERDAY. We cannot undo a single act we performed; we cannot erase a single word we said. YESTERDAY is gone.

The other day we should not worry about is TOMORROW with its possible adversaries, its burdens, its large promise and poor performance. TOMORROW is also beyond our immediate control.

TOMORROW’S sun will rise, either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds–but it will rise. Until it does, we have no stake in TOMORROW for it is as yet unborn.

This leaves only one day–TODAY–. Any person can fight the battles of just one day. It is only when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities–YESTERDAY and TOMORROW that we break down.

It is not the Experience of TODAY that drives people mad–it is remorse or bitterness for something which happened YESTERDAY and the dread of what TOMORROW may bring.